When I was in high school, during one of the many diet
scamsprograms I tried, someone asked for little goals, no matter how silly. I had seen a pair of faux snakeskin pants at Hot Topic, that only went up to a junior’s size 13 or so, so I said I wanted to be able to buy those.
I never got those pants, which is fine because they probably would have fit for all of an hour before I put weight back on. Such is the cycle for 97% of us.
Recently, I popped into an Ashley Stewart (there’s one right across from my gym, which is very dangerous) and guess what they had on the racks?
Faux snakeskin pants!
I opted not to try them on this time. But now my lack of snakeskin pants is based on my OWN choices, not someone else’s decision to stop making something at an arbitrary size point.
It was a nice reminder: you don’t have to be a certain size to have fun, to wear what you like, or to just live your life. Wear (faux!) snakeskin or (real) sparkles or mini skirts or whatever if you want to. You don’t have to put everything on hold until you starve yourself down to be temporarily smaller. Live NOW.
The short answer: only if you want to.
I covered this a bit when I talked about #RockTheCrop, but it always bears repeating.
Wear what you want and cover what you want, because you want to, not because someone else says you have to. (Obvious exception for work dress codes, but also let’s not pretend those are free of bias.)
You’re not too fat. You’re not too old. Your legs aren’t too long or short; your boobs aren’t too big or small. You are perfect and you can wear what you like. Show off whatever parts you like. Or cover them. Whatever.
Now, not every style will necessarily be available to fit you. That doesn’t mean that your body is wrong or that it’s a sign you shouldn’t wear something. It might mean you have to get creative, but you should still wear what interests you and display whatever parts of your body you want (um…and legally can).
So no, you shouldn’t cover [insert body part here] unless it’s something you want to cover. But think about why you want to cover it. Has the world been telling you your belly is too soft or your thighs are too wide and that’s why you want to cover up? There’s no wrong answer, and it’s your body so you get to decide what to put on it, but it’s always good to think a bit about why we hold certain opinions. Sizeism, like many other isms, is drilled into us from an early age, so what we think is innate may just be conditioning.
That doesn’t mean you have to suddenly be ok showing off previously unseen parts of your body. It’s still your decision. But try not to let fat hate dictate what you enjoy wearing.